Thoughts and feelings are invisible internal events that we experience all the time, but thoughts and feelings themselves don´t determine how things turn out in life. What matters is how you react and act upon a thought and a feeling inside yourself, and in relation to the outside world.
If you simply leave a thought or an emotion alone and do not involve yourself, it evaporates and disappears after a while and will be replaced by another thought or feeling, perhaps a similar one or maybe a completely different one.
An angry young man who has practiced this ‘let it be’ technique, explains how it makes him feel free: “Now I no longer fell forced to act upon my anger the way i did before.”
If you want to practice this ‘let thoughts be’ technique, you can use the Mind party or some of the Mind Games.
A teacher is responsible for a special needs class of a group of boys who become angry and aggressive very easily. He explains to the boys how the thinking brain and the brain’s alarm centre work (read more here). The teacher also print out images of the thinking brain and the alarm centre in the format of half postcard and laminated them (the pictures can be printed here). Both the teacher and the boys always keep theses images on them.
Every time one of the boys becomes angry and aggressive the teacher (or the boy himself or one of the other boys) take out the image of the brain’s alarm center and says: “Right now you’re in your alarm brain. In a few minutes you will again be in your thinking brain…. and then we can talk about what to do”. While saying the last sentence, he holds the image of the thinking brain up in front of the picture of the brain’s alarm centre.
Within a month, the conflicts in the class were significantly reduced.